Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Will I Really Miss This?

I have heard mothers of babies and young children ask this question before. I have asked it myself so. many. times.

Will I really miss this?

When you are smack dab in the middle of the hardest mothering moments you wonder.

Women who's children have grown up tell us this. We will miss this. They swear on it. And we wonder.

HOW?

How will I miss the sleepless nights and the spit up stained wardrobe and the endless poopy diapers.

HOW?

How will I miss spending hours pretending to enjoy playing race cars (AGAIN) and singing the Barney song (AGAIN) and asking if anyone needs to go potty (AGAIN).

HOW?

Well, I'm here to tell you how. They grow up. And you face a whole new era of parenting.

One full of teaching your grown child about bullying, about strangers, about not trusting everyone who smiles at you. You teach them about consequences and disappointment and they learn that there are bad people out there. Really bad people.

You spend your days sheltering them from the harshness of this world while trying ever so hard to not be overprotective while they learn life's injustices. You sit back and let them feel the pain of it. Because you have to. In just a few years, you won't be there to protect them anymore. So you let the world start creeping in. Slowly. Because soon, so soon, someone other than you will hold their hand and whisper in their ear.

And you hope and pray those people will love them as much as you do. That the world will love them and value them as much as you do. Which is hard. Because you know it just might not.

One day I will miss even these days. These days of soccer practice and game night and Star Wars marathon weekends.

One day soon I will wonder if they are safe. Hope they come home by curfew. Pray to God they are in the "good crowd". I will...gulp...give them the keys to the car.

One day I will miss this. I know it's true. Even when there isn't enough coffee in the world for that 8 am Saturday morning soccer game in the rain.

I will miss this.  And you will too.


14 comments:

  1. Ah, thank you for this reminder.  I needed it today.  My 3 yr. old is bouncing off the walls and testing my patience...thanks for the perspective!

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  2. RamblingsofatraumamamaDecember 7, 2011 at 10:32 AM

    Well, that lead to a whole boohooing session. Well written my friend. 

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  3. I can testify all day long...... I long for the time when all the kids were at home.... The twins under my feet in the kitchen while I'm cooking, Matthew running through the house like a wild child, David sitting quietly with his toys just smiles at me...... Bobby and Erick bounding in the front yelling an annoucement of  having arrived....Sedaia chasing the twins and trying so hard to help.....Its just never been the same.... doing 3 loads of laundry every morning just to stay ahead of it..... Cooking huge meals every night because you have 11 mouths to feed, eating out isn't an option..... I'd trade it all in tomorrow, to be back there again with all the problems that came with it...I miss my babies.... I miss a house full of life, and laughs, and love....I love all our kids His, Mine and Ours

    Love Mom Deb 

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  4. Well you made me cry! Even more reason to take it all in now while I can. Thanks for sharing!

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  5. Thanks dear. Now I'm crying too. :)

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  6. Three is such a fun age! Enjoy it while you can! Yes, even the bouncing. :)

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  7. I miss my babies too, but with each stage I found a new "love". When my kids grew up, they became my friends as well. I cherish the memories, hold them dear to my heart. I think back, smile, and remember and hang on to every memory. I remember the smell of my babies after a bath. I remember the smell of my kids after they have played outside, you know, that puppy dog smell. I remember listening to my teenage kids talking with their friends about what they wanted to do after High School. I remember when Tasha told me they were moving, how my heart ached, what would I do without her. When I am feeling down, I dig deep into my heart and pull out a memory, it gets me thru. So when your kids are driving you nuts and you want to pull out all your hair, remember, you will miss it. I PROMISE!!!

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  8. Just one more comment.  The poopey diapers, cleaning up vomit, and snotty noses. You won't miss that, I PROMISE!!!

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  9. It is true, There is something to love about every stage! Love you Mom!

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  10. Ha! The only thing I miss about diapers is that fresh powdery smell they have fresh out of the package!

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  11. I try to cherish every moment.  I know I will miss it one day!  Can I keep mine fun, sweet and 4 forever?!

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  12. I just told K not to grow up any more, but then I think about all of the fun things we still have to come. I need to let her grow up and enjoy her stage now all at the same time. 2 years old is pretty fun, though!

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  13. Well, my mascara's running, too! ;)
    Thank you so much for this..I needed it.

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